What is side gay

E very month, nearly 11 million gay men around the world go on the Grindr app to look for sex with other men. Once there, they can scroll through an endless stream of guys, from handsome to homely, bear to twink. Yet when it comes to choosing positions for sex — a crucial criterion for most gay men — the possibilities have long been simply top and bottom.

Roles in Gay Sex — What Do Top, Bottom, Verse, and Side Mean?

But amidst this vibrant mix, there is a common ground. Meet Walton Wong - a year-old, Melbourne-based part-time writer and full-time hot mess. He is a homebody at heart who enjoys binge eating, drinking cocktails, and memorising the words to real housewife fights, often simultaneously.

I’m gay and I’m not a top or a bottom – I’m a ‘side’

Yes, some do, but most don't. But what if a guy isn't a top, a bottom or even versatile? What about gay men who have never engaged in anal sex and never will, ever? Sides prefer to kiss, hug and engage in oral sex, rimming, mutual masturbation and rubbing up and down on each other, to name just a few of the sexual activities they enjoy.

Guys on the 'Side': Looking Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms

The open recognition of sexuality challenges the idea that penetration is the primary act of sexual experience. It helps us expand our notions of what sexual pleasure and intimacy mean, leaving more room for many other experiences and preferences within the community.